Love Hard on Purpose: Toss the Blueprints. Build Something Honest. (On Purpose #7)

Review Quotes:

Raw, honest, and deeply illuminating, this book reminds us that love isn't something we wait for, it's something we consciously build, heal through, and become. Essential reading for anyone ready to experience connection as true transformation. - Dr. Nicole LePera, Author of the #1 NY Times Bestsellers HOW TO DO THE WORK and HOW TO BE THE LOVE YOU SEEK

Therapist Kim provides a refreshingly straightforward guide to navigating modern love...readers who are dating or attempting to build more intentional partnerships will get plenty from this. - Publisher's Weekly

An essential guide to recognizing negative relationship patterns, embracing healthy love and attachments, and how to co-create a corrective new love experience, from bestselling author and therapist John Kim

What are the markers of a healthy relationship? How do you know if you are in love? When are you ready to choose the love that both holds you close and sets you free?

We all crave answers to these and many more questions about our intimate bonds with others. Trusted, highly sought-after, and influential therapist and podcast host John Kim addresses these tough questions and more with his signature blend of no-nonsense guidance and candid personal reflection. John helps us understand when to stay and when to leave, to recognize love as a form of medicine for the soul, and to discover the purpose of love is not just companionship but a loving transformation of the self. Love Hard On Purpose is an invitation to let go of toxic programming and discover genuine connection that lasts, grounded in the science of attachment.

If you're ready to break free of misconceptions and see love with new eyes, you'll begin to make different choices--choices that lead to deeper connections, growth, and a fuller understanding of yourself. In Love Hard On Purpose, you will discover:

• Awareness of your love "blueprints" and misguided definitions of love
• How to heal and attract healthy love
• The wisdom you need for cultivating and maintaining secure relationships

Welcome to a new relationship paradigm. Take a breath, open your eyes, and begin to love with, and on, purpose.

Review Citations:

• Publishers Weekly 04/13/2026 (EAN 9780063442863, Hardcover)

Contributor Bio:Kim, John

John Kim is a licensed therapist, speaker, and author of the bestsellers I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck and Single on Purpose. He writes for Psychology Today, among many other publications, and has been featured in the New York Post and on Vice, NPR, and Armchair Expert. He lives in Costa Rica, where he is raising a daughter with his partner. He writes books, sends daily texts, and helps his online community of like-minded singles find themselves first--and, of course, he still rides his motorcycle to coffee shops.