{"product_id":"when-the-ache-remains-lessons-on-tending-to-the-unfixable-and-finding-beauty-anyway","title":"When the Ache Remains: Lessons on Tending to the Unfixable and Finding Beauty Anyway","description":"\n\u003ctable align=\"center\" border=\"0\" cellpadding=\"2\" cellspacing=\"0\" width=\"100%\"\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd class=\"productDetailSmallElements\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"Lisa's writing feels like testimony and lament. There were moments while reading when a sentence would snatch my soul and wrap it up gently. Reading When the Ache Remains felt like someone was lovingly applying an ointment on a wound with relief and soothing felt immediately. A deep anchor and a flotation device in a raging sea. I was transported and changed when I finished reading. Lisa can write! This book is a gift and prayer.\" -- \n\u003cb\u003eTricia Hersey\u003c\/b\u003e, \n\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003efounder of The Nap Ministry, performance artist, and author of New York Times bestselling Rest is Resistance and We Will Rest!\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"In When the Ache Remains, Olivera gently accompanies us into our hidden corners, encouraging us to discover our inherent goodness, awakening us to all that is possible when we open to the full range of our emotional experience.\" -- \n\u003cb\u003eSharon Salzberg\u003c\/b\u003e, \n\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eauthor of Lovingkindness and Real Life\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"I cannot recommend this book highly enough. Because of the profound work Lisa Olivera has done to meet her own grief and depression, she offers gentle straight talk about how we, too, might tune into our own knowing--not to fix or to heal ourselves, but to turn toward our pain, integrate it, and live into the kind of ever-changing whole-hearted fullness in which our 'wounds become wisdom keepers.' Nourishing. Wildly compassionate. Breath-takingly real. When the Ache Remains is a celebration of our individual and shared humanity.\" -- \n\u003cb\u003eRosemerry Wahtola Trommer\u003c\/b\u003e, \n\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eauthor of The Unfolding and host of The Poetic Path\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"Lisa Olivera's approach to the deep work of loss and suffering will be a blessing to anyone who encounters her work.\"-- \n\u003cb\u003eFrancis Weller\u003c\/b\u003e, \n\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eauthor of The Wild Edge of Sorrow and In the Absence of the Ordinary\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"When The Ache Remains is a book of invocations--spells written from inside the architecture of healing. After honestly inhabiting her own grief and trauma, Lisa Olivera has smuggled out this tender collection of consolations, questions, and incantations to orient us on our own dark sea. She writes with the kind of vulnerability that can only be wrought by experience. Having battled depression and anxiety, Lisa chooses to lower her defenses. In a rare act of bravery, she names what so many of us resist knowing: some pain will never go away. Instead, she invites us to give our grief a name, to learn its shape, and to expose it to our compassion--perhaps, eventually, even to make it an ally. To read this book is to feel held in the author's kindness until it overflows into every ache that longs for love.\"-- \n\u003cb\u003eToko-pa Turner\u003c\/b\u003e, \n\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eauthor of the bestselling books Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home and The Dreaming Way\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"Lisa is saying what we all need to hear and remember again and again: there is nothing wrong with our ache. This book offers the rare comfort of knowing nothing in us needs fixing. She makes the hardest parts of being human feel tenderly approachable. When the Ache Remains is a generous companion for anyone learning how to stay with themselves through it all, discovering a gentler way of being with what is. There is no greater gift than a writer who reveals her own ache so others may find light in theirs, and Lisa does so with grace, generosity, and deep humanity.\"-- \n\u003cb\u003eSarah Blondin\u003c\/b\u003e, \n\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor of Heart Minded\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"Lisa Olivera's words continue to be a balm in a world where we are constantly grasping for hope. In these breathtaking pages, Lisa makes space for our grief in such loving and affirming ways. She gives us permission to be untethered without needing to find a \"quick fix\" and invites us to have an intimate connection with our grief, instead of bypassing it. Her words make you feel like you are having coffee with a beloved friend who sees you in all of your wholeness. Her soft teachings are the medicine this world deeply needs. A timely, courageous, compassionate, and life changing guide for these times.\" -- \n\u003cb\u003eZahabiyah Yamasaki, RYT, M.Ed.\u003c\/b\u003e, \n\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eauthor of Protect Your Energy and Trauma-Informed Yoga for Survivors of Sexual Assault\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"When The Ache Remains invites us to acknowledge our struggles and live gracefully, understanding that not everything will heal, yet we can still find peace. Lisa guides us on a journey to be gentle with ourselves, offering thoughtful practices and intentions along the way. This book is for those of us who feel stuck and want to reclaim our lives despite the challenges we face.\" -- \n\u003cb\u003eNedra Glover Tawwab\u003c\/b\u003e, \n\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eNew York Times Bestselling Author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace and Drama Free\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"A lullaby for the hurting. A salve for the sensitive. This book feels like a friend who sits with you and holds you during the hard parts of life. Lisa writes with such gentleness and clarity that the uncomfortable parts of being human start to feel less frightening, and the beautiful parts start sparkling extra brightly.\" -- \n\u003cb\u003eAmie McNee\u003c\/b\u003e, \n\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eauthor of We Need Your Art and To Kill A Queen\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"Grief is an abundant teacher--it comes in many shades and various waves, knocking us into spirals of potent feeling, into pits of sadness and rage. We all need help remembering how to be soothed, how to find comfort and beauty as we withstand the transformative pain of living. Within the heartfelt pages of When the Ache Remains, Lisa Olivera works to show us \"how to participate in this practice of remembering.\" Her words lead us down winding paths of self-exploration with examples of everyday healing methods and gentle prompts to steer us toward the light when we go searching. This is an intimate book, voiced with Olivera's writerly attention to detail and curiosity; each chapter brings a blend of query and encouragement woven to support us in our shared phases of ache.\"-- \n\u003cb\u003eJacqueline Suskin\u003c\/b\u003e, \n\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003epoet, educator, author of The Verse for Now and A Year in Practice\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eBiographical Note\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eLisa Olivera\u003c\/b\u003e is a writer, author, licensed psychotherapist, mother, and creator of the Human Stuff newsletter. Over the last decade, she has supported thousands of people in remembering their true selves and embracing the multitudes of being human. She has worked in schools, community-based mental health, and private practice, all of which inform her lens of the world. Lisa's work has been highlighted in publications including \n\u003ci\u003eThe New York Times, \u003c\/i\u003e The Washington Post, Good Morning America, and \n\u003ci\u003eThe Guardian\u003c\/i\u003e. She has appeared on many podcasts including \n\u003ci\u003e Adoptees On\u003c\/i\u003e, \n\u003ci\u003eHurry Slowly\u003c\/i\u003e, and \n\u003ci\u003eOff the Grid.\u003c\/i\u003e Her debut book, \n\u003ci\u003eAlready Enough\u003c\/i\u003e, was published in 2022. She lives in Northern California with her husband, daughter and two cats.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"A beautifully poetic guide to tending what is often left unspoken, this book is a divining rod that leads us back to the deep waters of truth, courage and wholeness.\" -- \n\u003cb\u003eTracee Stanley\u003c\/b\u003e, \n\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eauthor of Living Ritual and Radiant Rest\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"As a human who has tried and failed to outrun her pain and grief and self, Lisa invites a wholly different perspective: that we can, and should, instead of running, fully inhabit and expand into the places we are told we're only meant to linger - and that it is in this practice of staying where we find our aliveness.\"-- \n\u003cb\u003eHolly Whitaker\u003c\/b\u003e, \n\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eauthor of Quit Like A Woman and writer of Recovering\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePublisher Marketing\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003ePsychotherapist and author of \u003ci\u003eAlready Enough\u003c\/i\u003e, Lisa Olivera blends her own personal experience of living with depression with therapeutic wisdom in a moving exploration of the emotional pain each of us lives with to offer readers guidance on holding the ache alongside the beauty\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e.\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e Emotional pain, of all kinds and magnitudes, is part of life. We'll never be able to find ourselves free of it; no meditation or amount of therapy will cure us of the harder parts of being alive. The practice of turning \n\u003ci\u003etoward\u003c\/i\u003e the ache with care--reverence, even--might be one of the most meaningful gifts we can give ourselves. It might even save us. \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e Lisa Olivera has confronted this reality for years as a therapist, weaving her exploration of it throughout her popular newsletter, \n\u003ci\u003eHuman Stuff\u003c\/i\u003e. She asks questions like, \n\u003ci\u003ehow do we confront and tend to the painful parts of being human without letting that pain entirely overtake us? How do we find joy even when depression visits, even when we lose someone we love, even when the hurt of the world is ever-present? How do we cultivate aliveness in the midst?\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ci\u003eWhen the Ache Remains\u003c\/i\u003e explores these questions for readers in a tender and wise exploration of how ache shapes life, how we can alchemize our pain into medicine, and how presence is accessible even in the midst of difficulty. 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