{"product_id":"its-not-you-identifying-and-healing-from-narcissistic-people","title":"It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People","description":"\n\u003ctable align=\"center\" border=\"0\" cellpadding=\"2\" cellspacing=\"0\" width=\"100%\"\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd class=\"productDetailSmallElements\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eBiographical Note\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tDr. Ramani Durvasula is a psychologist, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training \u0026amp; Consulting. She discusses narcissism on her popular YouTube channel, on social media as @DoctorRamani, her popular online program on healing from narcissistic abuse, and as the host of the podcast \n\u003ci\u003eNavigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramani\u003c\/i\u003e. This is her fourth book.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"A must read. Dr. Ramani will teach you how to heal from any toxic relationship. With her expert advice based on decades of research and clinical experience, she makes the impossible seem possible.\" \n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e-Mel Robbins, bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eThe High Five Habit \u003c\/i\u003eand host of \u003ci\u003eThe Mel Robbins Podcast\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e \"Dr. Ramani has written \n\u003ci\u003ethe \u003c\/i\u003ebook on narcissism for our times, not simply because it upends everything we thought we knew about this personality, but because it gives real people a sense of hope...that they can heal, that they can move forward from these relationships, that \n\u003ci\u003eit's not you\u003c\/i\u003e.\" \n\u003cb\u003e-Maria Shriver\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"In writing \n\u003ci\u003eIt's Not You\u003c\/i\u003e, Dr. Durvasula directly addresses victims of narcissistic abuse with targeted advice developed through years of clinical experience and research. I would highly recommend this book to anyone struggling in a relationship with a narcissist. Once you realize it's not you who is the problem, you can become the solution.\" \n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e-W. Keith Campbell, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Georgia and author of \u003ci\u003eThe Narcissism Epidemic\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \" \n\u003ci\u003eIt's Not You\u003c\/i\u003e tackles a subject matter so wildly misunderstood and offers a path forward for those who have been, or currently are in narcissistic relationships. With deep compassion, Dr. Ramani masterfully helps the reader shift from self-blame to seeing the picture clearly. What a profound gift it is to those who will see their experience written about in this book and feel a little less alone.\" \n\u003cbr\u003e - \n\u003cb\u003eVienna Pharaon, bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eThe Origins of You\u003c\/i\u003e and host of the \u003ci\u003eThis Keeps Happening\u003c\/i\u003e podcast \u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \"Whether you are looking to avoid damaging relationships, leave one, or finally move on from one, Dr. Ramani has produced a work that is utterly essential for understanding the patterns we were never built to see coming. By lifting the veil on these people, she not only teaches us about them, but how to stop shaming ourselves for who we had to become to survive them. \n\u003ci\u003eIt's Not You\u003c\/i\u003e is not just life-saving, but life-restoring. More than a way out, it's a way back, to yourself.\" \n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e-Matthew Hussey, host of the \u003ci\u003eLove Life with Matthew Hussey \u003c\/i\u003epodcast\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e \"Emotionally abusive relationships take away our voice and our power, and Dr. Ramani gives us the tools and teaches all of us how to take ourselves back and feel whole again.\" \n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e-Debra Newell, author of \u003ci\u003eSurviving Dirty John\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \"A compassionate roadmap and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships...that helps...them understand how to heal and thrive during and after these challenging relationships.\" \n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e-Jay Shetty, bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eThink Like A Monk \u003c\/i\u003eand host of the \u003ci\u003eOn Purpose Podcast\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"What sets Dr. Ramani apart is her valuable emphasis on healing from the damaging effects of a narcissist's destructive behavior. With a direct and compassionate approach, she reminds us that it \n\u003ci\u003eis\u003c\/i\u003e possible to heal. As always, Dr. Ramani gives comfort and validation to the 'lions'. \n\u003ci\u003eIt's Not You\u003c\/i\u003e is a gift.\" \n\u003cb\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e-Jenifer Faison, host of the \u003ci\u003eBetrayal \u003c\/i\u003epodcast\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \"Dr. Ramani is one of the most respected experts on healing and narcissism. In this important book, I'm grateful she includes the often unseen world of grief and narcissism. She gives deep insights and sound advice on the experience of grief. \n\u003ci\u003eIt's Not You\u003c\/i\u003e is a must read.\" \n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e-David Kessler, author of \u003ci\u003eFinding Meaning \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \" \n\u003ci\u003eIt's Not You\u003c\/i\u003e is, simply put, brilliant. In straightforward, clear language, Dr. Ramani has created a framework for deeply understanding the complexities of, and healing from, this most insidious form of abuse. She challenges misconceptions and glaring gaps in knowledge of current paradigms in traditional psychology and with compassion and refreshing candor, guides us through hell--and back to our true selves.\" \n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e-Mark Vicente, NXIVM whistleblower and director of \u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003ci\u003eEmpathy Not Included\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePublisher Marketing\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eINSTANT \u003ci\u003eNEW YORK TIMES\u003c\/i\u003e BESTSELLER \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eFrom clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic relationships Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a guide to protecting and healing yourself from the daily harms of narcissism \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eAN OPEN FIELD PUBLICATION FROM MARIA SHRIVER\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eIt's not always easy to tell when you're dealing with a narcissistic person. One day they draw you in with their charm and charisma, the next they gaslight you, wreck your self-esteem, and leave you wondering, \n\u003ci\u003eWhat should I have done differently?\u003c\/i\u003e As Dr. Ramani explains in \n\u003ci\u003eIt's Not You\u003c\/i\u003e, the answer is: absolutely nothing. \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eJust as a tiger can't change its stripes, a narcissist will not stop manipulating and invalidating you, no matter how much you try to appease them. The first step toward healing from their toxic influence--and to protect yourself from future harm--is to accept that you are not to blame for their behavior. \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eDrawing on more than two decades of studying the landscape of narcissism and working with survivors, Dr. Ramani explores how narcissists hijack our well-being and offers a healing path forward. Unpacking the oft-misunderstood personality, she reveals the telltale behavioral patterns that indicate you may be dealing with a narcissist. Along the way, you'll learn how to become gaslight resistant, chip away at the trauma bonds that keep you stuck in the cycle, grieve the loss of these painful relationships, create and maintain realistic boundaries, discern unhelpful behaviors from narcissistic behaviors, and recover your sense of self after constant invalidation. \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eThriving after, or even during, a narcissistic relationship can be challenging, but \n\u003ci\u003eIt's Not You\u003c\/i\u003e shows you it is possible. 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