{"product_id":"are-you-mad-at-me-how-to-stop-focusing-on-what-others-think-and-start-living-for-you","title":"Are You Mad at Me?: How to Stop Focusing on What Others Think and Start Living for You","description":"\n\u003ctable align=\"center\" border=\"0\" cellpadding=\"2\" cellspacing=\"0\" width=\"100%\"\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd class=\"productDetailSmallElements\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\" \n\u003cb\u003eThis book offers a cure for chronic people pleasing.\u003c\/b\u003e If you've ever compromised your principles to gain another person's approval, Meg Josephson is here to help with revealing insight and sage advice.\"-- \n\u003cb\u003eAdam Grant\u003c\/b\u003e, author of \n\u003ci\u003eThink Again\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"Was \n\u003ci\u003eAre\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003ci\u003eYou Mad at Me?\u003c\/i\u003e written especially for me? It sure felt like it. For all the people-pleasers, peacekeepers, and fawners out there: Read this book now. My copy is already well-thumbed and heavily underlined--and, no, you can't borrow it! The book, brimming with wisdom and humanity, helped me change my relationship with myself by understanding the patterns of the past that I was still living out today. Thank you, Meg, for freeing me from so much I had buried. \n\u003cb\u003eIt is no overestimation to say that this book is a gamechanger.\u003c\/b\u003e\" -- \n\u003cb\u003eSusannah Cahalan\u003c\/b\u003e, author of \n\u003ci\u003eBrain on Fire\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"Meg Josephson has given the world a huge gift in \n\u003ci\u003eAre You Mad at Me? \u003c\/i\u003eFor all of us who've spent our lives feeling like we were in trouble--with friends, bosses, spouses, children, \n\u003ci\u003eeveryone--\u003c\/i\u003ethis book offers explanations, comfort, and best of all, solutions. \n\u003cb\u003eI'm grateful this book exists because I needed Josephson's gentle wisdom and empowering message now more than ever.\u003c\/b\u003e\"-- \n\u003cb\u003eChristie Tate\u003c\/b\u003e, author of \n\u003ci\u003eGroup: How One Therapist and a Circle of Strangers Saved My Life\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"Psychotherapist Josephson debuts with a cogent exploration of the least-known yet 'arguably most common' threat response: fawning.... Josephson's lucid prose and smart mix of clinical expertise, personal disclosure, and pertinent case studies makes for a uniquely actionable resource. She also provides an insightful look at the cultural factors that influence fawning...Recovering people pleasers will find plenty to chew on.\" -- \n\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003ePublishers Weekly\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eBiographical Note\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tMeg Josephson, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist. In her private practice, she specializes in trauma-informed care through a compassion-focused lens. She holds a Master of Social Work from Columbia University, and she is a certified meditation teacher through the Nalanda Institute. Meg also shares accessible insights via her social media platforms, reaching over five hundred thousand followers.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"Hallelujah--at last, salvation for all of us who've ever agonized over an awkward text exchange, wondered if we embarrassed ourselves at a party, or become convinced that a friendship cooling meant we'd unwittingly committed some grave sin. \n\u003cb\u003eMeg Josephson's instant self-help classic is wise, actionable, and could change your life.\u003c\/b\u003e\"-- \n\u003cb\u003eAda Calhoun\u003c\/b\u003e, author of \n\u003ci\u003eWhy We Can't Sleep\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\" \n\u003cb\u003eI can count on one hand the number of books that have settled my nervous system within the first three pages of reading.\u003c\/b\u003e It's so rare to be able to say: I needed this book, me too, thank you.\" -- \n\u003cb\u003eHolly Whitaker\u003c\/b\u003e, author of \n\u003ci\u003eQuit Like a Woman\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\" \n\u003ci\u003eAre You Mad at Me?\u003c\/i\u003e unlocks a secret door in the house of healing: understanding the fawn response. Honest, relatable, and totally binge-worthy, Josephson's work has the power to change your entire life. If you struggle with that screensaver type of anxiety that's always on--constantly worrying that you're doing something wrong or that people don't like you-- \n\u003cb\u003ethis book will feel like coming up for air. Read it and get free.\u003c\/b\u003e\"-- \n\u003cb\u003eKatherine Morgan Schafler\u003c\/b\u003e, author of \n\u003ci\u003eThe Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePublisher Marketing\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eInstant \u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e Bestseller * Named One of the Best Books of the Year by \u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eNew York \u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cb\u003emagazine\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003ci\u003e * \u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eA Goodreads Choice Award Nominee for Best Nonfiction\u003c\/b\u003e * \n\u003cb\u003eA Best Audiobook of the Year by Audible and Spotify\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eFrom psychotherapist Meg Josephson, a groundbreaking \"cure for chronic people-pleasing\" (Adam Grant, #1 \u003ci\u003eNew York Times \u003c\/i\u003ebestselling author) that explores the common survival instinct called fawning and offers \"explanations, comfort, and best of all, solutions\" (Christie Tate, \u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e bestselling author)\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e.\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eAre you constantly worried about what people think of you--if they like you, if they're mad at you? Do you overextend yourself, avoid conflict, or find yourself over-apologizing, only to feel resentful afterward? \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e In her \"instant self-help classic\" (Ada Calhoun, \n\u003ci\u003eNew York Times \u003c\/i\u003ebestselling author), Josephson explores \n\u003ci\u003efawning, \u003c\/i\u003ean instinct learned in childhood to stay safe by becoming more appealing, agreeable, and helpful to perceived threats. Over time, this instinct disconnects us from who we are, what we want, and what we prefer. \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e With \"lucid prose and smart mix of clinical expertise, personal disclosure, and pertinent case studies\" ( \n\u003ci\u003ePublishers Weekly\u003c\/i\u003e), \n\u003ci\u003eAre You Mad at Me?\u003c\/i\u003e shows you how to: \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e - Identify all the roles you might play--from peacekeeper to performer to caretaker to lone wolf to perfectionist to chameleon--that keep you far from yourself. \n\u003cbr\u003e - Stop fearing your thoughts and emotions, even if they're unpleasant. \n\u003cbr\u003e - Rethink conflict and boundaries as an opening for deeper connection. \n\u003cbr\u003e - Practice \"leaning back\" in relationships. \n\u003cbr\u003e - Recognize when people-pleasing is actually necessary (with your chaotic boss) and when it's not (with your close friends) and stop self-loathing when you slip into old patterns. \n\u003cbr\u003e - Shift away from the familiar chaos, anxiety, and resentment you're used to as you move closer to yourself and a life that no longer depletes you--but brings \n\u003ci\u003eyou \u003c\/i\u003ejoy. \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e Josephson offers a path out of people-pleasing--transforming your relationships so you can stop focusing on what others think and start honoring your own needs. No more wondering: \n\u003ci\u003eAre you mad at me?\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\n\u003cp\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Citations:\u003c\/strong\u003e\n\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cspan class=\"italic\"\u003ePublishers Weekly\u003c\/span\u003e 05\/19\/2025 (EAN 9781668082461, Hardcover)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cspan class=\"italic\"\u003eLibrary Journal\u003c\/span\u003e 07\/01\/2025 pg. 68 (EAN 9781668082461, Hardcover)\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eContributor Bio:\u003c\/strong\u003eJosephson, Meg\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tMeg Josephson, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist. In her private practice, she specializes in trauma-informed care through a compassion-focused lens. She holds a Master of Social Work from Columbia University, and she is a certified meditation teacher through the Nalanda Institute. 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